Are you about to chair an AA meeting and don’t know where to start? Maybe this is your first time chairing a meeting, and you want to ensure it’s a success.
Maybe you want to chair a meeting in the future and want to learn more. Whatever your reason, here is what it’s like to chair an AA meeting.
Chairing an AA meeting can be a daunting task, especially if you have never done it before. You want to make sure that it’s done properly and that you can help those in the meeting on their journey.
How To Chair An AA Meeting?
When chairing an AA meeting, you lead it.
Be warm and welcoming to all members, and make sure they feel safe and comfortable in your presence.
To help you know how to chair these meetings, keep reading to find out more!
Before You Chair
Before you can chair an AA meeting, you must meet some criteria. You can check AA’s website to see whether the criteria have changed recently. To chair an AA meeting, you will need the following:
- To have a minimum amount of sobriety (depends upon the group you attend)
- Sign up to chair the meeting
- Have access to the keys and be responsible for setting up and tidying the meeting space
- You will need access to previous meeting content to help your meeting
- Information from the treasurer about the money and how this is submitted
The criteria can change depending on your location and current guidelines, so be sure to keep up to date with these. If you are unsure, you can always reach out to other AA members for further advice, too; make the most of the community you have access to!
The Meeting
Let’s take a look at how the meeting could run. Remember, this is only a guide to chairing an AA meeting. You might want to run it slightly differently depending on your group’s needs, and that is okay. Just be sure it works for you.
Planning Beforehand
For the meeting itself, I recommend using the 12-step literature to choose a topic.
You can easily access this online or contact other AA meetings for it if needed. Why not ask other chairs about topics they have used in the past? Use this information to create a plan for the meeting.
A plan will help you stick to time and cover everything you want to in the meeting. Take the plan with you to the meeting so you can reference it if needed.
Remember that discussions can often take longer than anticipated, allowing plenty of time for people to share. In some meetings, they have a standard 3 – 5 minute share limit so everyone can share.
Starting The Meeting
AA groups usually have a notebook with copies of pages for you to read from at the start of the meeting. This notebook is your meeting guide and tells you exactly what to say.
There are a few ways to ask someone to share. You can ask each person to share, and then the person on their right or left will share next. Another option in a meeting is to call on people to share. You can have speakers with solid sobriety to start and close your meeting. Alternatively, you can start yourself by sharing an experience that will help set the tone of the meeting (it’s best if this fits in with the theme you have selected).
Most AA meetings follow this format:
- AA Preamble
- Moment of silence
- Serenity Prayer
- Newcomers Intro
- “How It Works” from the AA Big Book
- Meeting sharing and discussions
- 7th Tradition Contribution
- Closing Prayer
Meeting opening and topics
After reading the opening from the group’s notebook or folder, you can discuss the meeting topic. You might want to share some quotes from the literature here or draw on other experiences. Keep your topics and conversations free of judgment.
These meetings are not a place to judge someone’s past decisions but to offer the experience to learn from and move forward. Also, leave any bias at the door; these meetings are a safe space!
You can draw on the 12-step literature here to explore the theme of the meeting. If this is a discussion meeting, this is the time to open the floor to those who want to share.
Open The Floor To Discussion
Once you have covered the meeting topic, open the floor and ask if anyone wants to share.
Encourage them to share anything they wish; it doesn’t necessarily have to relate to the meeting topic if they feel it’s important.
Be sure to allow them space free from interruption to share, where their feelings will not be judged.
You don’t need to have an opinion on their feelings; simply offer the space to share, ask some questions if you feel it is appropriate, and thank them for their contribution today.
Remember, not everyone will want to share, and that’s okay. Avoid forcing anyone to share, and encourage anyone who wants to speak. If no one speaks, you might wish to share some of your own experiences, but be mindful not to spend too much time talking! It can be tricky to balance, but you will get the hang of it after a meeting or two.
Close The Meeting
To close an AA meeting, participants usually stand and hold hands. Sometimes, the facility allows room to get in a circle; other times, people stay where they are and hold their neighbor’s hand.
At this time, everyone will recite the Lord’s Prayer if they’d like. This is optional, so those who do not want to say it do not have to. Some groups close with the Serenity Prayer instead, and some close with their preamble or the promises.
Extend the offer to members to chair the next or a future meeting, which can help boost your members’ self-esteem and confidence.
Final Word
Here’s a brief guide on how to chair an AA meeting. You don’t need to follow this to the letter, but it will offer plenty of inspiration and food for thought.
Remember, your meetings should focus on your members, and you should always do what is best for them!